“Will he leave his wife for me?” That’s a question I get asked a lot by clients who date married men. Dating a married man can be frustrating, and never once have I seen a woman get the married man they were after. The first problem is without realizing it a woman in this situation can easily give off a vibe of fear and desperation. They have invested a lot of time, energy and sometimes money into these men. They expect a return on the investment and when it doesn’t happen they start to panic. Because of this they are not acting from a place of love, but from a place of fear. The urgency that ensues as a result of their fearful behavior and actions towards the men and their relationships with them creates a lot of pressure on the men. And we all know how much men love pressure…not!

You have to be smart. Sometimes you need to make decisions with your head and not your heart. At the very least involving yourself with a married person is going to be a road paved with lots of obstacles. You are going to be waiting a very long time for this guy to maybe leave his wife. Not to leave his wife, but to maybe leave the wife. Ask yourself: do you really want him to leave the wife? After all, you have been hanging in there a while now with little progress. You have to be getting something out of this. The hope of him leaving is wife is not the only thing that is keeping you hooked.

Being involved with a married man does point to the fact that you might like being with someone who is emotionally unavailable. It is likely that you too may be emotionally unavailable. There is likely a deep seeded fear within you. A fear of being rejected by a man who is available and can be there for you 100% of the time. So there are a few things you might want to ask yourself.

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